I'm being pulled in a thousand different directions. As a therapist, Chuck DeGroat hears that line all the time. 'I hear it from students and software developers,' he says. 'I hear it from spiritual leaders and coffee baristas. And I hear it from my own inner self.' We all feel that nasty pull to and fro, the frantic busyness that exhausts us and threatens to undo us. And we all think we know the solution - more downtime, more relaxation, more rest. And we're all wrong. As DeGroat himself