For generations, women have been told that love is the ultimate prize and we should shrink, smooth and silence ourselves to get it. Right? WRONG. Times have changed, and so have we. It's Not Love, Actually is the modern dating bible for anyone who's done being played, patronised or told they're 'too much'. Part memoir, part manifesto, part practical guide, Dee Salmin unpacks how the patriarchy has shaped our expectations around love, sex and relationships, and shows you how to unlearn all that bullsh*t. From being single and thriving, to dating with boundaries, to finding love that's actually worth your energy, Dee blends research, expert insight and unapologetic truth-telling in this funny, furious, deeply relatable and entirely unfiltered guide. So grab your crystals, call your coven, and get ready to burn the old rulebook. It's time to love yourself, raise your standards, reclaim your power and learn how to date like a feminist witch.